Turning 65: How My Definition of Success Has Changed

Last week, I turned 65.

Birthdays have a way of making you pause and take inventory.

For most of my career, I measured progress by the next client, the next keynote, the next opportunity, the next accomplishment. There was always another mountain to climb.

Lately, my definition of growth has changed.

On my birthday, the day started with breakfast with Barry, some time with our dog Bentley, vocal warm-ups, painting, and responding to birthday messages. That afternoon I relaxed by the pool, and that evening we celebrated with friends.

I also made the intentional decision not to work that day.

A few years ago, that would have felt irresponsible. Today, it feels right.

Ironically, slowing down hasn't made me less ambitious. It's simply changed what I'm ambitious about.

I'm investing more in creativity. Learning to sing more effortlessly. Painting. Traveling. Mentoring. Chairing a nonprofit gala that means a great deal to me. And saying yes to experiences I once thought I'd get to "someday."

One lesson I've learned is that every season asks different questions of us.

Earlier in life, mine was: How much can I accomplish?

This season feels more like: What kind of life do I want to create?

I'm grateful for the people who have been part of the journey so far, and I'm excited about what's still ahead.

Here's to continuing to learn, contribute, create, and occasionally giving yourself permission to take the day off.

I'm curious: What's one way your definition of success has changed over the years?