Money: it’s a concept that brings up an emotional response for most people, even if they aren’t fully aware of it.
You’re probably consciously aware of the money you have in your bank account at a numerical level, but have you ever thought about the relationship you have with money?
Because more than anything – more than our income, our financial status, or our habits around saving… it’s our relationship with money and abundance that determines the amount of wealth we bring into our lives.
Remember that abundance applies to far more than just money. When our connection with abundance is unblocked, we allow a massive inflow of love, creativity, inspiration, and endless new possibilities into our life.
Look at your current connection with money
How are you currently connected with money? Really take some time and unpack this question.
Do you try to control your money, stress out about it, fear not having it, and base your entire feelings of safety and security around it?
Or do you feel gratitude for money, empowered by it, and confident that you can bring it into your life when you need it?
The starting point for healing any relationship is a full acceptance and awareness of the current state of connection.
What beliefs around money did you pick up as a child?
Your relationship with money very likely comes from beliefs and patterns you picked up in childhood, likely from your parents or society. Beliefs like “Money doesn’t grow on trees” and “Being rich must mean you’re greedy” linger in our consciousness, affecting the way we’re able to create wealth later in life.
These subtle ways that these beliefs and paradigms affect us as we grow and mature can be quite detrimental as we seek to create more prosperity through our work. You may reach a point that feels like a ceiling or block you just can’t seem to overcome, and this is where it’s necessary to step outside of the physical struggle for wealth, and heal your subconscious mindset.
Money is energy
The important thing to know is that money is just a form of energetic currency that supports you in creating freedom for your life. When your relationship with money is free and unblocked, then abundance and creativity will flow freely and your possibilities for creating wealth will be nearly endless.
On the other side, if your connection with money is fearful, desperate, and stressed, all of your good intentions and efforts may be wasted, as the underlying energetic flow and connection with abundance will be blocked.
When you approach money as simply another form of energy flowing through the world, it’s easier to step back from the triggering context it often brings up.
Imagine you’ve just started dating someone who you’re pretty interested in, and could even imagine building a future with. All of a sudden, that person becomes utterly clingy and needy, obsessed with your every move and unable to spend a moment without you. Chances are, you’re running the other way – fast.
The same goes for your relationship with money! When you chase wealth with a desperate need, it will always elude your grasp. But when you honor and appreciate its presence in your life, and create the space for money to flow in without needy attachment, you’ll start to experience much more positive, wealthy results.
4 ways to develop an abundance mindset
Once you’ve identified that your relationship with money isn’t producing ideal results in your life and bank account, it’s time to make a conscious change. Only through intentionally shifting your inner beliefs and mindset, will you be able to create the tangible outcomes you desire.
Get clear on your values. Sit down and take some time to journal about your values; that is, what are the things which are most important for your life to be in alignment. Examples of values might be honesty, creative expression, meaningful connections, abundance, and making a difference.
Oftentimes we unconsciously hold conflicting values which create blockages or negative beliefs around money. These may go back to our years as children or young adults, and the beliefs we learned from our family or from society. Working out these conflicts and getting clear on what you personally value (especially around money) will give you a roadmap for making decisions that support an abundant flow in your life.
Practice gratitude. Because money is energy, it responds acutely to how much we notice and pay attention to its presence in our lives. Remember: neediness repels what we want! But appreciation and desire combined with non-attachment are two keys to creating more wealth in a sustainable way. Practice being truly grateful for even the most nominal amount of money coming in, even if that’s finding a quarter on the floor.
Start to honor the presence of money in your life and space, recognizing the freedom and opportunity it creates for you on a daily basis. Celebrate every dollar that comes in. When you write checks or pay bills, send them with a blessing and gratitude for the services received. It might sound a bit “woo-woo”, but this energetic currency truly will respond to your attention and gratitude. As a bonus, scientific studies have shown that people who regularly practice gratitude are happier and more present than those who don’t – so this new habit will undoubtedly have multiple positive effects for your life (and wallet.)
Get creative with how you attract abundance. More than anything else, taking action that creates results will help shift your beliefs and mindset around money. And the more you can add value to others, the more you will receive value in return. Even the smallest shifts to get the ball rolling can become a tipping point for money to start flowing and your relationship with it to change.
What inspired actions can you take to start creating wealth in your life? Who can you serve, and what need can you fill? Money does not come to those who sit around hoping for it. Wealth is fully available to flow openly to those who put in the effort and give themselves fully. Whether that’s starting up a side hustle, selling jewelry at a local market, or teaching classes at your local community center, the more you get creative and add value to the world, the more wealth will flow to you. Stay persistent with this mindset; even if money doesn’t come in straight away, be relentless with your openness to receiving wealth and value in return for what you’re giving to the world. When you continue serving, staying creative, and taking action, there is no way that abundance will be withheld from you.
Set clear goals and focus on them (without attachment). This step is quite subtle, and a bit tricky. Essentially, you must have a clear and specific goal for the amount of money you wish to bring in, but you must not cling to it with desperation and attachment. This sort of energy is actually fear-based, and keeps you focused on what you don’t want, rather than what you do want.
Find a goal-setting method that works well for you, and start using it consistently to outline your 1-month, 3-month, 6-month, and 1-year financial goals, along with action steps to make them happen. Focus on these goals and read them every day, while simultaneously following the action steps you’ve laid out. Imagine what it will feel like to achieve your financial outcome, and feel the gratitude and joy at having achieved that. Desire without attachment is key, along with an unwavering focus to your goal and completely intentional mindset that your goal will come to fruition.
What aspect of your connection with money do you need to heal?
And what actionable steps will you take to unblock the flow of abundance in your life?
Tell us in the comments below.